Lonely wife dating


17-Sep-2017 08:25

Your marriage can be disabled by boredom and apathy, and even die from emotional malnutrition and neglect. The dictionary will tell you that isolation is "the condition of being alone separated, solitary, set apart," but I like what our daughter Ashley said once when she slipped into my study to ask me what I was writing about. When isolation infects a marriage, a husband and a wife exclude each other. Because of the alarming number of couples in good marriages who are unaware of this problem, I must state forcefully a sobering truth: The soul was not created to live solo.

When you're excluded, you have a feeling of distance, a lack of closeness, and little real intimacy. We yearn for intimacy, and marriage is where we hope we'll find it. Telltale signs of isolation Barbara and I have seen this death of hope occur in the marriage of some friends.

Make the right choices, and you'll know love, warmth, acceptance, and the freedom of true intimacy and genuine oneness as husband and wife.

Make the wrong choices, and you'll know the quiet desperation of living together but never really touching each other deeply.

You can share a bed, eat at the same dinner table, watch the same TV, share the same checking account, and parent the same children—and still be alone. In many ways their story is typical of many others.

Although silence feels like a security blanket, it is perilously deceptive.

But at the weekend they recognized they had a problem.